Fellow Toastmasters, guests, and judges,
I’ve often read that a leader's job, among other things, is to take responsibility. When things don’t go as planned, there can be a strong temptation to find someone to blame.
However, unless that information will form part of the solution, the energy spent assigning blame is a waste of time at best, and may well make things worse.
My wife and I have been ballroom dancing for a few years. Tonight, I would like to show the parallel between leadership in life and leading on the dance floor and how ballroom dancing is an amazing opportunity to learn and apply leadership principles that will apply to all aspects of life.
The thing about dancing is that the feedback as to whether you're an effective lead or not can be almost instantaneous. (if you avoid looking to blame someone else.)
When your role in business or as a parent for example demands leadership, your effectiveness in that role, or lack thereof, may not become obvious until you have the benefit of hindsight. By that time, it may be too late to correct your errors, or even to detect what errors you may have made.
Now, in ballroom dancing, I’ve often seen couples stopped on the floor, debating which of them is guilty of making a mistake. (I've actually seen people storm off the floor!)
As with levying blame in business.... this serves no purpose and only makes things worse. (Believe me on this, or if not, feel free to ask my wife.)
The true leader simply takes responsibility for the solution. If I'm leading, (and I maintain this proper frame of mind), and the dance isn't smooth, it's my job to correct it. Now some of you may suggest that I'm taking more than my share of responsiblity as perhaps my wife is, in fact, the one who has made the mistake.
I would respond to this in two ways..... firstly, who actually made the mistake is besides the point. Secondly, those who know a little about ballroom dancing (especially the ladies) will know that, if my lead is "perfect", my partner's role becomes much, much easier; actually, it will be more difficult for her to make a mistake then to do it right. To do it wrong would require that she go against my lead to do it incorrectly which will feel very unnatural and forced to her. Conversely, when my lead falls short, the result is not neutral for her, it is an added challenge over and above her just knowing her steps, and just as she would have to resist a good lead to do it wrong, she now has to compensate for my errant leadership in order to get it right. (Difficult if not impossible)
You see, , I'm always leading her in the right direction or in the wrong direction, never a neutral one. A leader is always helping or hurting... food for thought.
"Leadership would be easy if it weren't for people!"; "They're so irrational and difficult to deal with!". You may have heard these complaints, only half jokingly.
When a musician makes a mistake, he doesn't usually blame his instrument.... it is an inanimate object.... alternatively, dealing with people is very different because they are far less predictable.
Learning to play a musical instrument. although not easy may be more straightforward. A friend once told me, "my guitar is always in the mood".
But leadership is not about leading inanimate objects, it's about leading people with all their wonderful diversity of moods and motivations, and, in dancing, it is a wonderful opportunity (sometimes very humbling) to see just how good you really are with people. (as much or more so than how good you are at dancing.)
One of the things I’ve told men to encourage them to take ballroom dance lessons, is that ballroom dancing may be the last bastion of male dominance left in society. The man leads and the lady follows!
However, what I conveniently leave out at that stage, is that, as with the quote from the Spider Man movie, “with great power, comes great responsibility”.... there is very big catch to this...what do I mean? Simply, if I make a mistake, it’s my fault, if my partner makes a mistake, it’s still my fault, because my lead was bad.
In ballroom dancing, to be a good lead, which by the way, is very much of an aspirational goal for me with lots of work yet to do, you have to maintain a “good frame”.... in fact, in many ways, the lady is the beautiful painting, and the man’s job is to make her look good.
A good frame is akin to leading by example, being a good role model... it is essentially the opposite of don’t do what I do, do what I say!
If my frame is off, it’s like a leader who lacks integrity. My leaning over my wife, or pulling her out of her frame, can make her life very difficult.
Also, when my frame is proper, then my signals can be very subtle, so much so, that my partner is barely aware of being led, she simply perceives that she is doing what comes naturally as if any other alternative would seem odd. She feels inspired.
If my frame is not proper, I will tend to force my lead, literally using my strength to practically wrestle my partner into submission. It can appear to work, but it comes at a high price, and there is a very good chance you may soon be looking for a new partner. She feels manipulated.
It is easy to start a dance in frame, but forget about it, and start to slouch or lower your arms, part way through. Maintaining a good frame requires us to focus on being vigilant of it, even when we may feel overwhelmed by the new steps we are just learning at the time. Maintaining integrity in life also requires focused vigilance. You can do the right thing or the easy thing. They are never the same.
Regardless of any titles, we truly are all leading people in one direction or another. So, if I get frustrated with people I lead, I try to reflect whether their behaviour is a mirror of my own shortcomings as a leader, and how I can improve.
If I catch myself thinking “what wrong with THEM?”....is it an example of one finger pointing at them, and three pointing back at me?
Certainly human beings have free will, and I'm not suggesting that one take responsibility for everyone else's actions but.... as a leader, I can strive not to waste time on assigning blame, but to first look within when it comes to finding the solution.
A bumper sticker I once read, said: "Dancing is Life"... I think there is a whole lot of truth there...
Thanks for listening!
Posted by Richard Chartrand CFP, Certified Personal Trainer at 2:26 PM
Jan 2, 2019
SUSTAINABLE SUCCESS Safe Strength Training
Welcome to SUSTAINABLE SUCCESS. This article is to answer the following questions?
What is safe, sustainable strength training? What is the underlying philosophy/science it is based on? Who is this is for? Who might this not be for?
Safe Sustainable Strength Training, is based on concepts that have been around since at least the early 70's, popularized at that time by Arthur Jones, founder and inventor of Nautilus machines. His Nautilus bulletin #1 and #2 summarized his thoughts on the topic. Many of the general guidelines had been around long before Nautilus, and in many respects some have opined that this is a return to basics, while at the same time being reaffirmed by the latest in exercise research. Many have contributed over the years to either further popularizing or helping to evolve what is often referred to as High Intensity Training (HIT). In doing so, various branding has come to include Prescribed Exercise, Superslow, Slow Burn, and Renaissance to name but a few. Some of the originators of these modalities may readily acknowledge being under the umbrella of High Intensity Training, while others may feel the differences are sufficient to distinguish them as a separate and superior modality. Some years ago, Ken Hutchins defined proper exercise (see immediately below), and this does in fact still fit what we do.
In any case, common threads among each which are part and parcel of safe sustainable strength training include:
SAFETY: While the benefits of exercise have long been established, what gets less attention is the fact that the rate of injury, either chronic or acute, that results from so called fitness activities is extremely high. Unfortunately, in many cases, this is not only often accepted but sometimes even seen as some sort of macho badge of honour. Our facility seeks to administer exercise in a clinical setting, emphasizing low force, perfect form and posture, in order to first and foremost adhere to the medical imperative of "first, do no harm".
DOSE-RESPONSE: Another common error that is made in exercise as well as many other life aspects, is the assumption that if a little is good, then more is better. In fact, proper exercise is a form of stress, that is beneficial only as a result of the adaptations we are able to make to protect ourselves from such stress, which otherwise would threaten our survival. The ability for our bodies to make adaptations is often referred to as our "recovery ability" and is closely linked to our immune system. While the human body is amazingly adaptable, there are limits. Therefore, the goal with our facility is to provide adequate stimulus to have our bodies initiate these adaptations, but to regulate the stimulus, volume and frequency in such a way as to enable our bodies to actually recover and adapt, avoiding overtraining, which can result in long term detriment to our health. In fact, optimum health has been described as keeping proper balance between anabolism (building up) and catabolism (breaking down). Thus, DOSE-RESPONSE refers to the "therapeutic window" where, using the analogy of administering exercise as you would a drug; too little is ineffective, too much is toxic, but as with Goldilocks, the right balance will yield the best results. Recovery ability will vary greatly from individual to individual as well as within the same individual depending on nutrition, sleep, and other stresses that affect them.
EFFICIENCY and INTENSITY: Safety is of course, a critical advantage of this modality, as your physical conditioning will not improve if you are forced to stop exercising due to injury, or if, as you age, you are plagued with aches and pains as a result of wear and tear on your connective tissues. Another critical advantage is efficiency. Virtually all exercise modalities require you to be in the gym or out running for multiple weekly sessions ranging from 30 minutes to hours. This is one of the main reasons why people either don't start or do not continue long term with their program. While you may actually feel guilty that you are not prepared to make and stick to the necessary time commitment, the good news is that proper exercise only requires a few minutes a week. Also check this link. However, if this sounds too good to be true, there is, in fact a "catch": The intensity of effort needs to be very high, which means a level of discomfort that most people will not enjoy, however, it doesn't last long. Also, with some modalities that encourage higher intensity, they achieve this intensity by moving more quickly which can subject your body to forces that can create injury. In our facility, each exercise is carried to momentary muscular fatigue. This is done however utilizing low force slow movements, so that we achieve intensity (even higher because slower movement creates continuous tension whereas quick movement, uses momentum), while still maintaining maximum safety.
EXERCISE VS RECREATION: Most of our clients will spontaneously become more active as a result of the increased energy and functional ability which will be the result of the exercise they do with us. We encourage clients to be active between workouts with a few caveats.
While this may seem like splitting hairs, we do not necessarily encourage being active between workout because of the benefits of such activity, but rather to avoid the harm that can come from spending too much time stationery, whether in front of a computer screen or television. It is simply a matter of moving around regularly to avoid this.
If clients happen to enjoy running, biking or playing a sport (I play weekly hockey and my wife and I ballroom dance) than, again, some distinctions. We categorize these activities as "recreation" vs exercise, and this is not to downplay the value of recreation which can have some physical and especially psychological and quality of life benefits. It is simply not to confuse exercise vs recreation, with the former being simply a matter of maximum conditioning in the safest, most efficient manner, and the latter being what we may enjoy doing, and which, depending on the activity may carry a degree of injury risk. More good news in that your new found fitness will help you to minimize injury risk during these activities. One way of looking at it, is that you don't play sports to get in shape, you get in shape to improve your performance when playing sports and to help minimize the risk of injuries. It should be noted that if what you enjoy doing is reading or photography or some other sedentary activity, you have no need for additional exercise beyond your weekly or twice weekly exercise at our facility, along with just regularly moving around during the day.
In the event that you are an athlete, whether amateur or professional and part of your goal in coming to us is to improve your performance, then you will find our programs to be ideal. Because of the safety factor, you will avoid "hurting yourself in the weight room" plus the low time commitment will allow you spend more time practicing the specific skills of your chosen sport.
EXERCISE, FAT LOSS, NUTRITION: The role of exercise in fat loss, while important, has been dramatically overestimated. The simple truth is that you can't exercise your way out of a bad diet. Proper strength training can help to ensure that the weight lost is more from fat than from muscle, which is, in itself, important as this will help with the appearance of the person losing weight. It will also help to keep metabolism high (perhaps not as much as once thought but every little bit helps) which is helpful in long term maintenance of weight loss. Another benefit is that it helps a person to burn calories long after the actual exercise. However, the calories burnt during and after any type of exercise plays a small role at best. Being active,(as long as not excessive) seems to signal the body that it is okay to give up some of the fat stores that it might otherwise hoard for survival purposes in anticipation of a coming famine. In the end, though, if your diet is bad, none of the above will be enough to offset this.
Nutrition itself is widely debated, to say the least, and can create a great deal of confusion. While the calories in calories out model has been challenged and or defended, it is widely agreed that overall calories do play a part to be sure. Macronutrient (protein, carbohydrates and fat) ratios have also been a huge source of confusion. In the end, where we come at it is summarized this way:
If you are eating a reasonably balanced diet with at least adequate complete protein from quality sources, with the balance coming from some of each of fat and carbohydrates, (again from quality sources) and that your overall food intake is not excessive, it is very unlikely that the amount of fat and or carbs you consume will be detrimental. In other words, for most people it is not so much that they consume too much fat and/or too many carbs, it is just that they are consuming too much food overall. The human body has shown that it can be very adaptable in utilizing either fat or carbs as energy. While science may eventually come up with some sort of optimal diet, and some people may do better with more of one or the other depending on how much and what type of activity they engage in, we believe that the above guidelines will result in a massive improvement for the vast majority of clients over the typical Canadian diet. In discussing nutrition with clients, we delve deeper into what we mean by quality sources.
The statistics with weight loss can be very daunting in that it has been estimated that the vast majority of people who lose weight, eventually gain all of it back and add even more. There are also some indications that losing and gaining throughout life repeatedly may actually be as harmful if not more harmful than simply being over fat. For this reason, anyone taking on the challenge of improving their body composition, must, as with many aspects of life, take on a long term SUSTAINABLE strategy to do so, and they must make daily commitments. For this reason, we highly recommend support systems, whether it be smartphone apps, support groups, or the use of quality meal replacements. Over the years, I've worked with many of these methods. Each client should choose whatever system they are comfortable with that includes accountability parameters, and some sort of support system.
I use a martial art analogy, in stating that if your goal is PERMANENT weight loss/maintenance, you are getting in the ring with a formidable adversary, and underestimating this opponent by going in with less than a well structured game plan taking into account lasting through an almost infinite (lifetime) number of rounds will in fact make you one more statistic among the yo yo dieters.
FINAL THOUGHTS: Is this for everyone? While my obvious bias would automatically answer yes, and I could make a case (as I've tried to do above) for the many benefits and advantages, there are definitely people who may not gravitate towards this methodology. They may include:
-People who genuinely enjoy spending a lot of the time in a gym, either because of the social aspect or just enjoy spending longer periods actually lifting weights.
-People who feel that their exercise needs to be "fun" for them to stick to it long term. (The intensity of effort will cause discomfort, however, it is brief and you will have more time and energy to devote to other "fun" activities.)
-People who simply would prefer not to work as hard as this modality requires i.e. going to momentary muscular fatigue/failure. (while the intensity can be reduced and compensated for by adding a degree of additional volume and/or frequency, results will not come without outright hard work; again the good news is that it is brief and relatively infrequent.)
-People who are looking to achieve fitness by practicing a sport and are motivated by a spirit of competition against others. While this is not necessarily exclusive to this type of conditioning, the two should not be confused. It is our view, as previously stated, that you get in shape to practice a sport, and not the other way around.
Much of the above and then some is very well summarized on a free e-book available on the HitUni site that provides certification courses for strength training.
I look forward to comments or questions.
What is safe, sustainable strength training? What is the underlying philosophy/science it is based on? Who is this is for? Who might this not be for?
Safe Sustainable Strength Training, is based on concepts that have been around since at least the early 70's, popularized at that time by Arthur Jones, founder and inventor of Nautilus machines. His Nautilus bulletin #1 and #2 summarized his thoughts on the topic. Many of the general guidelines had been around long before Nautilus, and in many respects some have opined that this is a return to basics, while at the same time being reaffirmed by the latest in exercise research. Many have contributed over the years to either further popularizing or helping to evolve what is often referred to as High Intensity Training (HIT). In doing so, various branding has come to include Prescribed Exercise, Superslow, Slow Burn, and Renaissance to name but a few. Some of the originators of these modalities may readily acknowledge being under the umbrella of High Intensity Training, while others may feel the differences are sufficient to distinguish them as a separate and superior modality. Some years ago, Ken Hutchins defined proper exercise (see immediately below), and this does in fact still fit what we do.
The Definition
Exercise is a process whereby the body performs work of a demanding nature, in accordance with muscle and joint function, in a clinically-controlled environment, within the constraints of safety, meaningfully loading the muscular structures to inroad their strength levels to stimulate a growth mechanism within minimum time.
In any case, common threads among each which are part and parcel of safe sustainable strength training include:
SAFETY: While the benefits of exercise have long been established, what gets less attention is the fact that the rate of injury, either chronic or acute, that results from so called fitness activities is extremely high. Unfortunately, in many cases, this is not only often accepted but sometimes even seen as some sort of macho badge of honour. Our facility seeks to administer exercise in a clinical setting, emphasizing low force, perfect form and posture, in order to first and foremost adhere to the medical imperative of "first, do no harm".
DOSE-RESPONSE: Another common error that is made in exercise as well as many other life aspects, is the assumption that if a little is good, then more is better. In fact, proper exercise is a form of stress, that is beneficial only as a result of the adaptations we are able to make to protect ourselves from such stress, which otherwise would threaten our survival. The ability for our bodies to make adaptations is often referred to as our "recovery ability" and is closely linked to our immune system. While the human body is amazingly adaptable, there are limits. Therefore, the goal with our facility is to provide adequate stimulus to have our bodies initiate these adaptations, but to regulate the stimulus, volume and frequency in such a way as to enable our bodies to actually recover and adapt, avoiding overtraining, which can result in long term detriment to our health. In fact, optimum health has been described as keeping proper balance between anabolism (building up) and catabolism (breaking down). Thus, DOSE-RESPONSE refers to the "therapeutic window" where, using the analogy of administering exercise as you would a drug; too little is ineffective, too much is toxic, but as with Goldilocks, the right balance will yield the best results. Recovery ability will vary greatly from individual to individual as well as within the same individual depending on nutrition, sleep, and other stresses that affect them.
EFFICIENCY and INTENSITY: Safety is of course, a critical advantage of this modality, as your physical conditioning will not improve if you are forced to stop exercising due to injury, or if, as you age, you are plagued with aches and pains as a result of wear and tear on your connective tissues. Another critical advantage is efficiency. Virtually all exercise modalities require you to be in the gym or out running for multiple weekly sessions ranging from 30 minutes to hours. This is one of the main reasons why people either don't start or do not continue long term with their program. While you may actually feel guilty that you are not prepared to make and stick to the necessary time commitment, the good news is that proper exercise only requires a few minutes a week. Also check this link. However, if this sounds too good to be true, there is, in fact a "catch": The intensity of effort needs to be very high, which means a level of discomfort that most people will not enjoy, however, it doesn't last long. Also, with some modalities that encourage higher intensity, they achieve this intensity by moving more quickly which can subject your body to forces that can create injury. In our facility, each exercise is carried to momentary muscular fatigue. This is done however utilizing low force slow movements, so that we achieve intensity (even higher because slower movement creates continuous tension whereas quick movement, uses momentum), while still maintaining maximum safety.
EXERCISE VS RECREATION: Most of our clients will spontaneously become more active as a result of the increased energy and functional ability which will be the result of the exercise they do with us. We encourage clients to be active between workouts with a few caveats.
While this may seem like splitting hairs, we do not necessarily encourage being active between workout because of the benefits of such activity, but rather to avoid the harm that can come from spending too much time stationery, whether in front of a computer screen or television. It is simply a matter of moving around regularly to avoid this.
If clients happen to enjoy running, biking or playing a sport (I play weekly hockey and my wife and I ballroom dance) than, again, some distinctions. We categorize these activities as "recreation" vs exercise, and this is not to downplay the value of recreation which can have some physical and especially psychological and quality of life benefits. It is simply not to confuse exercise vs recreation, with the former being simply a matter of maximum conditioning in the safest, most efficient manner, and the latter being what we may enjoy doing, and which, depending on the activity may carry a degree of injury risk. More good news in that your new found fitness will help you to minimize injury risk during these activities. One way of looking at it, is that you don't play sports to get in shape, you get in shape to improve your performance when playing sports and to help minimize the risk of injuries. It should be noted that if what you enjoy doing is reading or photography or some other sedentary activity, you have no need for additional exercise beyond your weekly or twice weekly exercise at our facility, along with just regularly moving around during the day.
In the event that you are an athlete, whether amateur or professional and part of your goal in coming to us is to improve your performance, then you will find our programs to be ideal. Because of the safety factor, you will avoid "hurting yourself in the weight room" plus the low time commitment will allow you spend more time practicing the specific skills of your chosen sport.
EXERCISE, FAT LOSS, NUTRITION: The role of exercise in fat loss, while important, has been dramatically overestimated. The simple truth is that you can't exercise your way out of a bad diet. Proper strength training can help to ensure that the weight lost is more from fat than from muscle, which is, in itself, important as this will help with the appearance of the person losing weight. It will also help to keep metabolism high (perhaps not as much as once thought but every little bit helps) which is helpful in long term maintenance of weight loss. Another benefit is that it helps a person to burn calories long after the actual exercise. However, the calories burnt during and after any type of exercise plays a small role at best. Being active,(as long as not excessive) seems to signal the body that it is okay to give up some of the fat stores that it might otherwise hoard for survival purposes in anticipation of a coming famine. In the end, though, if your diet is bad, none of the above will be enough to offset this.
Nutrition itself is widely debated, to say the least, and can create a great deal of confusion. While the calories in calories out model has been challenged and or defended, it is widely agreed that overall calories do play a part to be sure. Macronutrient (protein, carbohydrates and fat) ratios have also been a huge source of confusion. In the end, where we come at it is summarized this way:
If you are eating a reasonably balanced diet with at least adequate complete protein from quality sources, with the balance coming from some of each of fat and carbohydrates, (again from quality sources) and that your overall food intake is not excessive, it is very unlikely that the amount of fat and or carbs you consume will be detrimental. In other words, for most people it is not so much that they consume too much fat and/or too many carbs, it is just that they are consuming too much food overall. The human body has shown that it can be very adaptable in utilizing either fat or carbs as energy. While science may eventually come up with some sort of optimal diet, and some people may do better with more of one or the other depending on how much and what type of activity they engage in, we believe that the above guidelines will result in a massive improvement for the vast majority of clients over the typical Canadian diet. In discussing nutrition with clients, we delve deeper into what we mean by quality sources.
The statistics with weight loss can be very daunting in that it has been estimated that the vast majority of people who lose weight, eventually gain all of it back and add even more. There are also some indications that losing and gaining throughout life repeatedly may actually be as harmful if not more harmful than simply being over fat. For this reason, anyone taking on the challenge of improving their body composition, must, as with many aspects of life, take on a long term SUSTAINABLE strategy to do so, and they must make daily commitments. For this reason, we highly recommend support systems, whether it be smartphone apps, support groups, or the use of quality meal replacements. Over the years, I've worked with many of these methods. Each client should choose whatever system they are comfortable with that includes accountability parameters, and some sort of support system.
I use a martial art analogy, in stating that if your goal is PERMANENT weight loss/maintenance, you are getting in the ring with a formidable adversary, and underestimating this opponent by going in with less than a well structured game plan taking into account lasting through an almost infinite (lifetime) number of rounds will in fact make you one more statistic among the yo yo dieters.
FINAL THOUGHTS: Is this for everyone? While my obvious bias would automatically answer yes, and I could make a case (as I've tried to do above) for the many benefits and advantages, there are definitely people who may not gravitate towards this methodology. They may include:
-People who genuinely enjoy spending a lot of the time in a gym, either because of the social aspect or just enjoy spending longer periods actually lifting weights.
-People who feel that their exercise needs to be "fun" for them to stick to it long term. (The intensity of effort will cause discomfort, however, it is brief and you will have more time and energy to devote to other "fun" activities.)
-People who simply would prefer not to work as hard as this modality requires i.e. going to momentary muscular fatigue/failure. (while the intensity can be reduced and compensated for by adding a degree of additional volume and/or frequency, results will not come without outright hard work; again the good news is that it is brief and relatively infrequent.)
-People who are looking to achieve fitness by practicing a sport and are motivated by a spirit of competition against others. While this is not necessarily exclusive to this type of conditioning, the two should not be confused. It is our view, as previously stated, that you get in shape to practice a sport, and not the other way around.
Much of the above and then some is very well summarized on a free e-book available on the HitUni site that provides certification courses for strength training.
I look forward to comments or questions.
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